Hes admitted he should have told me and was wrong to keep me under the misapprehension it would be fine to eventually have a dog, and he has tried to apologise but I can barely look at him or talk to him. (I was sick of that too that I started putting my foot on her and saying, Thats enough. .. A PET IS DEFINITELY LIKE A CHILD! Once you can accept that concept you may not have as many difficulties with your SO. Ive actually stopped sleeping in the same bed because Fido hogs up so much of the bed that I cant ever get comfortable, so Im now sleeping in the 2nd bedroom while my boyfriend and the dog sleep together! the puppy sleeps with us and the ex get jeleous when puppy puts his head on me. Let your poor little puppy go to someone who will give him love not abuse. My dog has seizures and is getting old and Im tired of listening to my husband about this. I find hair still on clothes that Ive washed after being there. Me and my son usually enjoy its company. He isnt even searching for a home for them so I guess Ill have to. Im having the exact same issue with my dog and my partner hating him. Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. Hang in there. As long as Im content that equals not only survival but thriving as well. Bb, you sound like me and my wife. This is keeping me very busy the last days and I feel like one dog has to go if I want to keep my relationship. I did also tell him about this website and that Im not alone feeling like this, I think that helped him see things from my perspective as well. What else is he intolerant of? Im honestly so angry, what is even more frustrating is he sees no problem with this at all, Im starting to think I will never change his opinion and he will never compromise. Im not sure what to believe. WHAT DO I DO??? It upsets me greatly, we also have a 4 yr old son which the dog has bit on a couple occasions simply because the dog does not like him. Dogs take a LOT of time and effort, more than most people realize. Socialization: Has your dog appropriately socialized? The husband/boyfriend may need to rehome the dog if its interrupting the relationship. Now onto our 2nd dog. I will, however, say I love my dog. They must have hurt him because that is not how I raised him. Please advise ? I complete understand your point! I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. Pets do not belong on the furniture. What do I do??? My girlfriend has a dog who Ive been polite with and tend to when Im the only one around. I accepted I have sweep twice per day until my husband gracious decided he would rescue another dog a min pin couple weeks ago who is about 2years old not house broken and use our home including all bedroom as his personal bathroom. Ok I get that, so I tell him where an ear plug that way we can address the barking together more effectivly. I was faced with the same thing. She destroys everything. shes 21, attends school and works, and spends most of her days / weeks at her boyfriends house, now, so that cat, in effect, is the sole responsibility of my wife, since her 21 year old son spends his time, 24/7 in his room playing computer games. Video of them walking saying they drag their feet. Before we even met he has had a medium sized border collie/labrador cross and a cat from a previous relationship. The chewing and pottying and getting in the kitchen table pisses me off. We moved into a house at the beginning of last year and he brought his old dog with him. But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. The dog has not done anything wrong. So I feel trapped in a way as I do not wish to have a broken family nor do I want to continue living in my current situation. Its just a coffee table. I am a nursing student so money is very tight. It feels so disgusting and frustrated when a dog poops or pee on a nice carpet on the floor inside the house. I really do not understand this concept.. the answer of if you were a dog lover.. isnt the answer. So, I have to follow him around to make sure hes on the right track. Gosh I fear that youre right :-( It does seem like my story is basically an echo of all the other stories. Im very attached to him. So I am left with training the dog, feeding her, taking her out etc..and Training her has been very hard on me. Yes I have discussed this with him but it doesnt really go anywhere because he gets defensive every time I bring up anything about his child. 2. Just last year my Siberian Husky Anya was involved in an attempted aduction by my ex boyfriend and he lured her with the exact same example you provided. We have been living together for 2 years now. Second is that your facts arent actual facts. From here, I knew that my husband should be the one to choose her, because I love all Boxers. I can certainly feel your pain. But having spent a considerable amount of time at his house already with his pain in the ass dogi told him i am not moving in. I am not an animal person. And he takes enough space for a small child.I realy live her but i can not sleep with animals.I have realy tried alot and my brain still can not comprehend why she holds him like a baby to go to sleep that is a another issue i have.And then i am blamed for treating animals like THINGS she says.Every living thing has a its place in this world But Not My Bed.This issue has made me in a bad mood all day. This has greatly bothered me. And yes, she would get on all the furniture, including patio chairs. Its just too much time with him even if he is doing his own thing parts of the day. This isnt acceptable behavior by the one that is suppose to make you feel loved, trusted, and safe Confused. I call her the furry wife and thats exactly what she has been. I got the two cats for my girls. I left and havent regretted it. They CAN be in a crate. Hope you found this helpful. This guy sounds ije a jerk. Hes a good dog but senses that my husband doesnt like him so hes afraid of him. I live in Germany, so sorry if my gramma isnt so good. Your siginifgant other most of the time will never care for the pet the way you do only put uo with it because they love you and let me tell you women that goes a long ways if your anything like me. Is he a narcissist since he has isolated you from friends and now your furry friends? In Mistys case it is pretty obvious that the man has a codependent relationship with his dog; he has made it clear to her that the animal is his priority and he is unwilling to change for the sake of developing a relationship with her. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. We got into a horrible fight recently over it, he agreed to see if giving his dog anxiety medication would help. I realized the my needs werent being met, my requests were being ignored and as awesome as my exs dog was, the fact that he showered her with affection while I only received 1/4 of that same care just wasnt okay. I truly Im not fan of this dog and I want him out the bed. The dog is bored. Its not the dogs: its the people, and its not us, its them. She cant scratch at the door to let us know she needs to go out luke our big dog so we thought the doggy for would be perfect since she can just go out when needed. I think if your boyfriend isnt willing to work with your feelings and change some of his dogs behaviors (and his own), then maybe you wont ever truly have the loving relationship you deserve. Leading with stern confidence (not aggression) is the absolute best thing you can do for a dog. I have no advice for you and I have no idea how people have four dogs. Yet I still try and compromise because I love her genuinely. I thought he was acting out, but he was recently diagnosed with Cushings Disease and he cant help his urge to feel like hes starving all of the time, but my husband has had it. I love the dog and take care if him all day everyday while my boyfriend is at work. We cant seem to make it more than two days without him peeing on something- no matter if he has just gone outside or not. Then we decided until she was potty trained fully, theres no sleeping in our room. Im losing my damned mind! There are enough responses here that a website for dog widows/widowers seems viable: I dont think there is anything. Who runs the show you or the dog? Dogs arent human in the sense that some people anthropomorphise their pets but that nauseating pet lover encourages jealous or possessive behavior that just their dog likes them only because of the way they are intentionally or subliminally raised. If the dog tends to pee or poop everywhere and shedding issues, its better to restrict the critical areas in your house like the dining room, living room, bedroom, etc. You deserve a man who will make you number one in his life! By continuing to live there you are becoming part of the problem. Wanted to make my partner happy. How I talk to the cat and greet him(mind you, my husband went through a depression from losing his job and Id come home to his scowl looking face and Mango would run to me for his greeting-Im sorry? I didnt realize you responded so quick. Ask him for another month and promise to correct this behavior within that time period. I vowed never to ride in that truck again and have not. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. Well so am i!!!!!! What about my feelings. They feel like the animal has always been there for them. I hate how this one barks when someone comes to the door. You are just as temporary as the dog no matter how well you would like to admit it. So i recently started staying at my fiances house as well be married in about a week and i have been very clear about the dog sleeping with us. At first she was very welcomed and loved by me and my sons. I denied the idea multiple times just for that reason!! Rescue your marriage: find a new, permanent home for the dog and dont buy any more animals without first talking it through. If you are prioritizing the dog over your husband/boyfriend, you should get over yourself. I tell him it hurts my feelings when he says things like that about my dog, wishing her dead all the time, but he says what about MY feelings, how I hate the dog, that I do not care that he hates my dog and he feels he has to live with this animal he hates. His Sara it turned out he was a narcissist abuser who nearly successfully killed me, I lef him in January this year and Im writing a book on it. His parents are just as bad, they call the dog their grandkid and call several times a day to check on the dog. It literally drives me to resentment. So I guess you believe that marriage was also developed by the patriarchy to get people to submit then too? Unless hes just being an ass, then maybe you should reconsider staying with your partner. I have pretty much put my foot down and the dog has to stay in her bed all the time. All our money is shared; the house is in his name, so are all the cars, and whenever I try to save some money aside in case I have to leave and take the dogs with me, he throws a tantrum and guilts me till I submit. IT tried biting our baby!!!!!! I have a joy and it is rescue animals. (He still pretend mutt his child/partner). I was just wondering if anybody could answer my question. These men, are looney! If he is not an animal person, you have to accept that is who he is. I have bad experience right now and its boiling on depression for me. When I came home from the grocery store, he would already be stealing food from the grocery bags or things out of my purse! I even reminded him that he previously told me he didnt have a problem with that, but he still says I am wrong. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. Walk her 1-2 miles once in the morning and once at night. He doesnt want to be a responsible dog owner and groom her properly and he doesnt want to discipline her out of guilt. Just because you dont feel a certain way doesnt mean that everyone that doesnt feel that same way needs therapy. Its just nasty and gross! All rights reserved. If the brother can afford to take a year off he can afford a kennel or to fly the dog to Europe where there are plenty of dogs. I guess 20 years was long enough for us, and I have had ducks, turtles, cats, fish, and a monitor (big lizard) all without his blessing and he let me do it, not because it made him happy but because it made me happy. However, the time comes that we are going to live on our own, which means he wants to have his dogs over there. I can imagine that you are attached to the cat. You deserve to be listened to, talked to, and even disagreed with. At that time I had an 8 year old yorkie (who is now 10) and my husband had never owned a dog before in his life. Ultimately, it is extremely unfair to make a partner get rid of his/her pet. So with all that said, Ive had lots of cats and dogs in my adult life, I just wasnt as you said a pet nut like my husband was with his dog and never will be. Being offered food and having her bare her teeth isnt one. for instance a rat terrier I knew would boss her human around by not obeying or listening to her humans half hearted commands. As for our brains vs a dogs, oh my goodness. Advice? Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. We now have a 2 month old baby and as you could figure, I am extremely busy with him. me too with my dog. I love but hate her. sometimes dogs are more prone to certain behaviors or traits dependent on their breed. She Says its either her and the baby or my dogs. wow.im shocked to see so many people are having the same problems as meand so many people that just outright hate their partners pets.im in the middle here.i am at my witts end here i dunno what to do anymore maybe talking to people here will help as someone may have sane advice.ive been married to my husband for seven months we dated for a year before marriage.everything was great between us until i moved in with him and his dog.im an animal lover more of a cat person but i love all animals so this is so hard for me.my husband has a four year old pit bull mix that he got as a rescue dog that he has had for four years.the dog was malnourished and abused when hubby saved him i always thought that showed that he was a caring sweet person as an animal lover i respected that about him.i realize the dog was around before myself and my three, continued because my comment submitted before i was done typing..sigh.my husband had this dog before he ever met me i respect that and since i moved in these are just some of the things ive dealt with..firstly the dog is spoiled and has zero training he does not obey anything i say at all if my husband gives the dog a command the dog listens to him but usually only for a few minutes then it will disobey him too.but my husband is gone at work sometimes sixteen hours a day he has a dangerous stressful hard job while hes gone the dog completely and deliberately does things to spite me.when we first got here the dog would not stop trying to mount and hump my baby who is almost two and it wouldnt stop tearing up her diapers all over the place that in itself was very stressful for me i am currently pregnant with our baby the dog is big and hard for me to handle but i manage.i studied dog behavior and have worked with the dog in so mamy ways.ive finally gotten the dog to stop trying to mount my baby and see her as higher up in his pack.when i came to my husband forst with my concernsyour dog is too big for any pregnant woman to have to handle because it does not listen to me ..your dog wont stop trying to assert dominance over my baby and tries to hump herhe just dismessed me like it was no big deal so i studied dog behavior and was able to work with him until he stopped humping my baby.i thought the night mare was over but boy was i wrong.secondly my husband is gone all day as ive said..so the responsibility of his dog falls all on me and my two older children.we feed water pet talk to walk and take care of his dog every day.he does not appreciate it or understand how hard it is for me being pregnant to care for such a large hard headed spoiled dog.the dog is given full run of the house and lays wherever it wants it gets hair every where and constantly licks and chews everything.if we eat around the dog it sits in your face and drools all over your legs until u feed it some of your food or put it in another room.my husband rarely plays with the dog or shows it any attention except at bed time..the dog is allowed to sleep in our bed all over the bed even on me the dog is seventy five pounds and i am a light sleeper.if we put the dog on the floor next to our bed it licks and chews and scratches and whines and keeps me up until i finally say ok come in the bed dog..i would not mind sleeping with the dog sometimes if it just laid at our feet or in one spot but it will move closer and closer until its damn near on top of me smashing my belly or laying on my legs to the point i cant move so i dont sleep well and it makes me cranky..i have a broken foot on top of being pregnant so this is really hard for me.very rarely he will put the dog outside the room and close the door.the dog is not agressive or mean ..just hyper and disobedient and wants to run and play.he playfully started nipping at my almost two year old daughter..if my husband says stop the dog will stop until it gets another chance to try his shenannigans later.if i say no it just keeps right on going.the other day it nipped at my baby i said stop and the dog continued to bear down on my baby.i was horrified.he did not bite to be mean he just wanted to play i get that..but he is bigger than the baby and could seriously hurt her.i forcibly had to pull the dog off of my baby and move him for him to stop.he didnt break the skin but left four red teeth marks on her.then he paws at her trying to get her to play with him but his claws are sharp and sometimes he leaves marks on my baby.i came to my husband saying look i dont want you to think i hate your dog..i love the dog but i love my baby more and he keeps nipping at her and clawing at her i cant handle this anymore it takes alot of stregnth to move him im pregnant i cant be lifting seventy five pounds its not right..either he needs training and to be taught he cannot behave that way or he needs to be re homed to someome who does not have small kids..he just isnt a good fit for a pregnant woman and a toddler.he yelled at the dog for biting and the dog hasnt done it since.but he still paws and scratches at her.every night for a month ive been kept up by this whining licking chewing hell hound he will not stop until he has my spot on the bed then looks at me as if to say haha you cant do shithe is not stupif the dog knows what im saying to himhe knows his behavior is bad and since hes been allowed to do whatever he wants he has been showed he can comtinue the behavior.i find myself resenting the dog and hating my husband.how could you put the safety of your family and your wifes sanity and health of your unborn baby second to a spoiled disobedient animal.ive confronted him nicely..kindly..ive tried to show my husband that this is not acceptable and each time i get told itll be fine stop stressing yourself out over the dog..or just met with outright opposition.i said look its not some joke when the dog really hurts my baby and we have to explain to cps why she has bite marks and have to put the dog down..itll be too late for the baby and the dogi dont want that.i dont hate your dog i just cant deal with him being pregnant its too much he needs training or a new home.ive talked to some of my friends who also have dogs and are animal lovers and each of them has said if it was their dog and it nipped their baby the dog would be gone point blank no buts about itand theyve all said its absurd that im forced to sleep with the dog every night.they all say their dogs do not sleep in the bed at all.ive told my husband thisto show him that im not just being unreasonable that my concerns are valid and its not just me who dosent want to sleep with a dog every night.like i said i dont mind it sleeping with us sometimes..but once in a while i need room to stretch out and silence to get proper sleep im pregnant ffs.two nights ago the dog was on the floor and he kept licking whining and scratching and chewing ..my husband sleeps thru this..i cant ..ive triedi finally said ok come on boy and he laid at my feet for a while..but that wasnt enough for this selfish spoiled beast he kept on and on until he was legit laying on my belly i moved over so that the dog was between usdid i mention we have no sex life because theres always a dog between ustmi sorry.i didnt sleep at all that night i finally got up and went and slept in my older daughters bed with her.last night we were getting along great we watched some tv and hubs said i gota go to bed babe love ui know he has to get up ridiculously early and i didnt wana argue so i calmly and nicely as i could said babe i dodnt sleep at all last night..can we please put the dog out tonightplease.he looked at me and said jesus youre not gonna shut up until i kill my dog..u want me to shoot the dog do you? 138 Sponsored by Spokeo Are you worried that your partner is talking to someone? But NOW hes saying he doesnt want her in the room at all. Grooming sessions: Never skip grooming sessions. So, my girlfriend and I have been together for four years. Im not sure how much more of this I will be able to tolerate :-(. Undoubtedly there will be some sensible advice here, but to be honest, so many of you just sound completely bonkers! What is the glue that is holding them together? Okay since then my 3 kids and I have moved twice and recently moved into a home and my boyfriend of 6 months has moved in with us. I am to the end of my rope and sanity with the dog. If you are confident you can please do ahead and try but if he carries on,please believe me,you are better off without your partner full stop. So yes, I suppose he is :) Judging from how little youve read of my actual comment regarding the little differences we have with our furry counterparts and the reasons in doing so Im going to take you as the type that is so set in their beliefs no amount of evidence can make you see otherwise and thats okay. I admit I have also spent considerable time and energy to train them to live with us in harmony. People so often posit their relationships with their pets on nothing beyond feel good feelings they get from the pet being fully dependent upon them, when they would never accept that type of arrangement with another human being. So beware of a pet that has a human status and is for all intents and purposes the SO of the pet/human relationship. I hate dog/cat hair all over everything I own and I do not appreciate being disregarded so someone can pet, rub, snuggle, and baby talk their pet. But take a moment and step back to look at the situation overall. 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