We dont laugh as much as we used too. I am struggling with my current relationship, I love him, but I have the thoughts of him being a narcissist, player or using meThanks. He always used to put his friends before me, lied to me, involved in gangs and drugs. God bless! Im so tired picking up after someone that cant even lift a finger to help me clean the mess he made. yes, I did reply. We have so much in common, yet not at the same time. You are independent. Ive mentioned the kissing thing to him a couple of times and so far, no real change. We just celebrated our 9 months of being together last Sept. He tries to make me think Im crazy when I talk him about it. Im certain when he got up in the middle of the night drunk and angry because I was trying to cuddle and woke him up (he got dressed and turned all the lights on to start manically cleaning the house) that he probably threw them in the garbage. Get emotionally and spiritually healthy. I feel like I have to bow down to him because its always his way. How did I give him permission? And when we actually spent time together we always just went for a walk couple times a week or we met to have sex, we never did anything else. When he is sad I quit everything to cheer him up. I thinking breaking up with him is definitely a stretch, but Im tired of begging my boyfriend for some reasonable attention. I am learning. Try not to get upset, irritated, or emotional. It helped me calm down. But theres one time where I got really mad and told him what i feel about everything and he said he was sorry and he tell me how much he loves me. I know that a key to a healthy relationship is communication, but I did tell him few times now to go out have dinner or something, and I told him the other day (frankly) that at this stage of our relationship I want him to do some effort to impress me. I dont know what to do. Hes now working at a new job since Jan and its great! I take it very personally and feel disrespected by this, alone, that he has such little respect for my comfort or opinion of him he just doesnt bother but he will shower and shave and brush his hair even to go get a haircut. Maybe he always expects you to be waiting for him, ready to do whatever he wants. He Wants You To Approach Him First. Fast forward to after the trip, he rolled back into town and expected me to be completely free for him to come over to loaf around my apartment. High on mine, low on his. Im so interested in him so Im conflicted. And now he hasnt talked to me in almost three weeks. You, me, and probably thousands of other girls are in the same boat right now with the Coronavirus. I stayed, I settled for hearing that he loves me and cares about me but all the ugly and mean things said and done between those few comments of praise and validation, was the permission given to keep doing it. So thats why he wasnt there and because his board broke. I feel stuck, tired and so vary heavy like every step I take is being pulled back by large bricks as everyone else passes by at a much faster rate. He had stopped taking pictures of me, he stopped liking my pictures in social media, the gifts stopped, and overall I felt as a hassle when I hung out with him. It feels awful when you feel like you care about him more than he does about you. Also i didnt know if i could put this but yes I did give myself to him and it was my first time part of me regrets it and part of me doesnt but I promise it was legal but yeah. But the communication thing has really slowed down. When i say effort drops off, he takes hours to reply to me despite being very active on social media and those replies are one word conversation enders, isnt bothered about spending time with me, tells me he is busy with his family, but I will find out hes actually with his friends, I plan days out in advance but he makes me aware he wont be able to attend because of workbut then when the time comes round to it, he is free but is going out with his friends in advance. And then when they do not respect those boundaries, I have a decision to make. He didnt even make an effort to see me or plan anything the week before he went out of town. I dont know what to do. MY BOYFRIEND AN I HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER AND WE BOTH WORK. So I honestly dont understand. But the good things about that is, by then you honestly love and care about yourself much more than you do love him. His complaint is that no matter what he does is never enough and that I dont contribution anything. I have tried to express my feelings over and over, but I still get nothing. Ugh. In all reality if he is losing interest youll know in time. Its going to make me fall out of love as he is so defensive and cannot solve the issue. I think its not enough to say I dont feel like Im a priority. Im always the one who always ask. I decided to swipe right to see who he was. After my birthday on the 2nd I was 16 and he was 18 (not a big age difference and its not illegal where Im at) and so i wanted to meet him in person. I am slowly trying to make new friendships and to enjoy myself with people who love me. He will see what he lost. Things started getting better and then crashed on the rocks. The last few years have been tough. We have had sex, one time. I told him about how I felt scared I looked too nerdy in my full protection hear and helmet and everyone else wasnt wearing any. He always tells me that he loves me and always talks about the future seriously, but honestly it just feels like I just have to take his word for it. I ask my boyfriend to do simple things like make me a coffee once in while, ask if i got home safe, tell me im beautiful, or just ask me on a date. He didnt court me. But hes never done anything at my house even though he says he will help me out. He said he did. I am experiencing the same situation too and it really hurts. Its so annoying because Im a feminist but I just want to feel secure. I think that might make him feel better. Its also heartbreaking, especially when you want to be with him. I was 15 when we got together and he is like my best friend I love him very much the problem is, I just feel like I do everything I can to make him feel comfortable and cared for and he does very little at all. It hurts, but Ive got to learn to let go. I bought him a journal for prompting thoughts of positivity and gratitude, He acted appreciative and was OK to do the morning and evening prompts. we are a college couple of 2.5 years now. He Is Nervous. But hes a good guy with a good job so thought I would see if I could deal with it. Advice? Im still waiting on unemployed from when I lost my ft job in Sept. My tuition for spring is late. He wont think through things for different perspective. I havent felt loved in so long and ever since we started doing long distance, I feel like Im always putting in effort to do a lot of small things for him just to cheer him up but he doesnt think about doing anything special for me. I know for sure that he likes me as well. He used to put in a little more effort Im confused. Even sent follow up warnings and he still didnt do anything this Valentines Day. You can change how you respond to your boyfriend and everything else in your life. If you havent recognized it yet, you are in an abusive relationship. I dont want to beg for it, it should come naturally I feel. He would change his mind a lot from going to his home state to staying and ever since hes been on and off in our relationship and very careless he doesnt put effort into it after everything I HAVE DONE FOR HIM. We went on a trip. Its more about him being a hero. Except I work from home, so I have to watch him do nothing all day and work. Wanting me to be available for him. WebiStock. Psychologically, the pressure was destroying me. I had to call him! A week after that, I was at a summer camp and me and him were on ft. He gets annoyed and sighs and does the What do you want from me now?? 88 years of expert advice and inspiration, for every couple. he told me he loved me which he hasnt said in a week 1/2 i was shocked.. he acted normal but careless. He stopped initiating sex and one day i found saved Google image searches under very specific terms saved on his phone and realized why i wasnt getting laid anymore. But I am tired of not having a life together anymore. Tonight was my last straw.. Never any action. I am always will to do anything however since I love notice it was only me doing it Ive been reluctant. Required fields are marked *. You have the power to change someone very important in your life. Carve out time for conversation, get in tune with their needs, stop avoiding difficult chats, empathize with what they say, and listen to how they say it. Rather, letting go is about loosening unhealthy attachments in current and past relationships. There are plenty more examples. However, I do know something that will help immensely. My brother did tell me that he may be going through some things in his personal life that he is not ready to share with me. Rather than jumping to conclusions, have a conversation with your partner and ask them what's been on their mind and the reasons for their apparent loss of interest. If they are willing- great! You can go through the next 10 years like this cause this man is not miraculously going to change.do not for 1 minute think he is going to suddenly wake up and be who you want him to be. Say you have a date tomorrow night. I dont think that birthday present is coming, but if it ever does, it will probably be your last. What started as my dream sex life is now I am lucky if we do it once a month and it is usually on his terms, NOT when *I* am in the mood, planned and boring and routine. Not only that sexual favors have been one sided for a long time now. He was very affectionate and gentle towards me and would make it a point to call me every day, the first maybe 2-3 months of our relationship. He sounds lazy and you sound unhappy. please give me an advice. In Feb it will be our 6 year anniversary. Every time I ask, he gets upset, and starts an argument, so why do I bother? Stop working for him. LEAVE HIM. Sometimes I dont talk to see if hell bring anything up, and the silence is too awkward and long that I give in and say something else. And I know its not healthy to compare your relationships to others but Id be lying if I said I never wish my relationship was more like others. He always makes his schedules according to his friends schedules and if I wanna spend any time with him I have to change my schedules. I dont have a say in anything and I cant express how I feel because he tells me its all on me and pretty much its my fault I feel the way I do. Then he asked me out for coffee later tonight if i am free, I told me I am already engaged ( which I am). He replied: about what? The problem is, everyone around me has boyfriends that are going the extra mile to make sure their girlfriends feel loved at this time. We girls if determined, are so much more stronger than guys Angela. We have been together for almost a year. All you can do is give him space to love you the way he wants. His mom, so sweet and caring, once scolded me because I refused to go on a trip with him. It breaks my heart not talking to him and hearing about his day but I know this was for the best. And i just wish the fighting would stop, i seriously cant take. Should I stay? Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, i love him and I know he loves me back but, my biggest insecurity is him changing and being lazy in the relationship, which I have noticed he has been doing lately. Then we signed our new real lease together and I dont know how we got where we got but he started getting lazy. We were fine for the first 6 months, then with this virus we havent been able to see each other. I been paying for everything(food,gas,food, weed). I have shared my emotions and thoughts to him, he tells me Im over reacting, I am being silly and he is still fully interested in me. I tell him how much it hurts when he says certain things and that there is ZERO excuse for intentionally hurting someone we love. I dont think Ill ever want to be in another relationship again. Im about to turn 20 in a few months and hes 25, Im afraid i might be a little too naive or wayyy too vulnerable for someone like him. So many thoughts, so many scenarios. Theres always a chance that this will trigger self-reflection, and he will crawl back, and you can decide whether to give a second chance. He never seems to try, you know. You want him to want you. Mildly work related topics but no reason for the call other than chat and vent. im not sure what to do anymore. I feel like I & this relationship deserve more. I cant say no because if I do I feel like Im being lazy and letting them down, plus they get mad at me for saying no. Ive talked to him about it twice to no avail. I have brough up some of the issues and he acts clueless and doesnt know what to do. Dont forget, you deserve affection, effort, and communication. Things are getting better as we learn about his condition and learn the tools to manage conflicts between us. I want him to want to make things better instead of just making decisions that arent beneficial to the relationship or are just downright harmful to the relationship. its been 10 days now and he havent ask me out, during these 10 days when he says i miss you or i say i miss, he would ask me to meet at his place for couple of hours (again at the spare of the moment). through text, he claims to love me and all that, but in person, i feel like he does the bare minimum. And I told him we can figure it out together after 1/2 weeks I asked him again and go if you dont want to be with me just say it and he said he doesnt want to be a di**head and I said fine and I tried ending it because the way I was getting replies I felt as if he didnt want this no more. Ive been dating my boyfriend for four years. Its confusing because he takes care of me by buying me food and we hangout all the time but theres 0 affection. By lack of effort I mean that its almost like pulling teeth to get him to plan weeks ahead to figure out when we will be able to see eachother. Im the beginning, it was easy. I met my boyfriend at work. I dont know what to do. Be happy with you. Just stop allowing that guy to keep thrusting a dagger in your heart. We usually see each other every weekend but he normally works 6 days a week, 10 hours a day so we actually spend less than 24 hours a week with each other. But its weird because he texts me good morning every day, asks how my day is throughout the day, sends me updates on everything he is doing, etc. Again, tons of excuses. He does not even get up in the morning and brush his teeth, put on deodorant ,etc. hi so ive been with my bf for 4 years and at first ofc it was all great but after 2 years he jst stopped putting in effort and when i ask him to, he makes it seems like its such a chore. He told me he loved me within weeks of us meeting. I dont do things just to expect it in return but you just want reassurance that youre appreciated. A lovely text of him telling me that we can talk everyday when I wake up in the morning. He was not able to go back to school again because his government decided that no one will graduate this year. I really think this will be a good thing for us because Ill be able to have my own independence and maybe make him see that I can be happy without him (even tho as of right now we are planning on staying together and commuting to each other when we can). ? I asked if he still has resentment but he said he doesnt. But still hes everything I want and need. Im not sure what to think or do. Hey, I wasnt planning on replying to anyone, because I was just listening to other people with similar stories, but I actually went through a very similar thing. Hes always been so affectionate towards me, always wanted us to be happy so we got together. she tells him SHE is sorry. We had the break up talk several times a day, and at the end of it, it was one of the other begging to stay together because they believed we could fix it. I do really love him even we just got together. I felt confident with my decision to part. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 8 years and have three kids together. He tells me he is going to bed and we will talk about tomorrow. He pays alawys though i offer to pay but he refuses. Help me please I have no idea what to do. If youre not walking out the door, you are telling him that his behavior is acceptable. That it was fine even though I was angry but I didnt show him the anger. But Ive just always felt like im not one of his priorities. He loves me and I love him. However, I started to notice some changes in him, subtle ones. That same night, he stopped replying and was offline cause they had some family time and it seems his granny got ahold of all the electrical gadgets to make them sleep early.He told me the next day and we did catch up.I thought we were going back on track until he,again,stopped replying at some point. So..instead of taking to his office or doing it later. Let an iota of plea reflect. Letting Go of Someone You Loveisnt about getting over it. Letting go doesnt mean forgetting, pretending you didnt lose an important relationship, or guarding your heart so you dont get hurt again. is there a light at the end of the tunnel? I have since ended the relationship as I feel it is a one way system with him taking and not giving. I love him and i plan on marrying him but i dont know how to fix the lack of effort without fighting like we always do when i ask him to put in more effort. I was dipping into my bucket to bring him up but I wasnt getting anything in return. He hasnt showed any affection towards me since that incident and makes me feel he doesnt care to make me feel like Im the only one. You need to recognize that youre settling for less than you deserve. Fear of commitment/fear of pain (especially if engaging with you triggers those emotions that remind him of a past failed relationship). Dont tell him, because he might try to manipulate you. I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. Im afraid the only way we can turn this scenario upside down is by starting to love and care about ourselves more. Since then hes filed for bankruptcy and the interest he used to take in my poetry appears to have disappeared. We continue dating but not once did he ever bring up talking about all that he mentioned. We dont even hug or kiss anymore because people have always yelled PDA! (Stupid high schoolers) so now he wont do any of it. When ALL grocery stores near us are closed saying I dont feel like cooking tonight, we dont have all the ingredients so I say ok why is it that you didnt notice this when you got home from work when stores were open? I hold my tension in about the pot than lash out on him cuz I know he wont change and stop smoking, but I also dont want to be with someone that doesnt make me feel special or loved. Its long distance and he is 8 hours ahead of me. Does not show any effort at all, but claims to love me so much. If, for example, your boyfriend is dealing with work stress, emotional health issues or family problems then you can might want to give him some time and space. I asked him a couple of times why he doesnt put any effort and he just told me since we live together I shouldnt have to and I get that point but it doesnt mean just completely give up on putting a effort into the relationship. when it comes to affection, i literally have to initiate everything. https://www.bonobology.com/husband-does-not-give-me-attention he would nvr go out of his way to do anything for me now and it makes me wonder why because what am i lacking? Weve knwon each other since high school because my bestfriend has relationship with him. What he said was he passed out and decided to sleep at friends place because he was afraid of driving late. He just doesnt understand why. We are an older couple early 60s. The first 5 he was boyfriend of the year. recently,his uncle and fam went to visit them and its been quiet hectic for him with three energetic kids pestering him every moment. Made me feel so bad. About 2 weeks or so after, I voiced my concerns again about his lack of effort in making quality time. I visit him at work a couple nights a week and bring him dinner as he works second shift. This weekend I called for a break, and told him we should spend time apart. Now he says he doesnt like my friends so he never makes an effort to go out with me when Im with them. You cant control your feelings, but you can control what you say and do. Am so confused I dont rilly know what to do . He had PTSD, bi polar disorder and anxiety. I just dont know what to do. My birthday weekend was really rough. Like we will be having a nice time and something sets him off and he just spirals. Now he wants us to not meet more than 2 times per week, even if none of us are working or studying full time at the moment. My youngest is a 1 month and when she was about two weeks old he met this girl on a bar while hanging out with his best friend and got her number. You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. He sounds willing to work on your relationship, be thankful for that. We just hang out in my house. They had another baby but as the saying goes you shouldnt have a baby to fix things so they split up. I buy him presents, I shower him with so much love. You cant make him love you, or force him to make an effort in your relationship. He is not interested in knowing what my love language is. I pay d bills, I buy him stuffs give him money, I practically do everything in d relationship . I appreciated it still but it was all cheap and last minute, again lack of effort. IT IS A VERY HUGE PROBLEM. Get away from him immediately! It is just hurtful to know that he could not even think of doing this one thing for me. Do you want to stay with your boyfriend, just the way he is right now? Thank you Sumiah, for your response and your concern. He has his mum doing everything for him. all in all, i just feel underappreciated, mistreated and im angry and resentful towards him all the time. Your email address will not be published. I just requested patience. I ask him what was his intention of saying it and give him the space to nagivate the answer by himself. i jst think hes all abt himself and idk wht do. Hes never been married no kids etc. Right now hes not even talking to me. He got a divorce just over two years ago and lately he has been having some family issues. Around my birthday time I started to notice that his effort was there mentally and physically. Thanks for your confidence in a random stranger. Or he took them off somewhere he shouldnt have between home and work and left them or maybe regifted to one of his cohort? I spend half my time daydreaming about being actually taken care of by someone. He said the reason we broke up was because of different love languages, arguing, and that he was not as emotionally available as I need him to be. Ive put my career aside to help him build his business. Life is to short to live on a roller coaster. So I stopped doing that and now treat him like just a friend. I want to stress that YOU DID NOTHING WRONG by vocalizing your needs and something you crave in a relationship. He ignored me for a week 1/2 I thought he dumped me an i had mental breakdowns every night and day..I finally get an email from him asking to zoom and i zoomed him. he says he wants to break off because he is busy in his work and stuff. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. This guy never learned to be a good partner, and it sounds like he doesnt know how to try now, either. Im ready to forget everything he did to me and start to trust him.. Wht are the things i can do to bring back trust, spark, and energy to our relationship Please help me.. Thnk u so much. I was so upset and sad to know he did that, specially after just having a baby. She threatened to send my bf to jail idk how tho. Some of the things that he was doing I perceived them differently than how he intended them. If you have never met in person then its more than enough reason to break up with him. Hi Ella. Always honest. I have been noticing that he is lacking some qualities that I need in a mate. Every time I have to make the first move conversation and ask what to do, He has no idea. Theres little to no effort. ? Like WTF is your goal, here, exactly? He compromised but I guess his old self is back .Ive not heard from him today as well.I would understand if he was unwell,Id appreciate it if he could atleast send me even a short message so I wouldnt get so worried. I love everything you said and its so true. Maybe I just need to not be so dependent and work on myself. Thats the only way you will know how he truly feels. Stopped fantasies and games and generally sexual desire towards me about 2-3 years ago now, losing track. I tried to talk to him about it multiple times, every time he would apologize and say he would be better, but he always fell back in the same routine. This person flakes when we have plans even after I said that Im not here for that. So i moved out and got my own place and we continued dating. Im so sorry this happened to you. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 5 months weve known each other for quite a while in the 1st couple months was wonderful we talked a lot did stuff together laugh together he started working more and didnt have as much time is energy but I noticed that hes working obsessive until he absolute collapses he makes no time for me he keeps saying I cant wait till we have time again when I get these jobs done but nothing is an emergency hes not strapped financially he doesnt have to complete these things as fast as he does I go to his house and sleep a lot of nights with him thats kind of all were doing anymore were not even having sex but if I dont sleep over he calls me and text me I miss you so much I love you so much but he wont actually put in any effort to do anything with me Im so confused about about it Ive lowered my expectations again and again and hes just been just disconnected just not really even present Its like he knows he has me and he can just put me on a shelf until he feels like paying attention to me again and its not enough for me but I love him I know he loves me I dont know why he doesnt get it that this relationship is gonna die if he doesnt keep starving it. but in the reality im not. I have felt hurt and abandoned, left out, unwanted, ever since he started his masters two years ago and threatened by his preference for them over me. But after reading the article I realize that Ive just been complaining but I have never taken out the time to ask him, what a healthy happy relationship looks like to him, what his definition of effort is, or what kind of life does he want us to live, with me planning everything for us or what he wants. I have no idea what this is all about, but the roller coaster needs to stop, its too hard for me to deal with. When I started dating him I was very strong in my religion. When I got back to our dorm that night I ft him and told him it felt right but It was also an accident. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. sometimes comes to my place to have sex. He has learning and growing to do. He assumed I wanted an argument for asking him to take the bin out. That night at 1 am I snuck out and had his sis pick me up. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. There could be many reasons why your partner is not showing you the affection you desire, and according to therapist, dating and relationship coach and former matchmaker We actually ended up breaking up and I tried to distance myself. Be like, Hey, Im going to the beach or the zoo tomorrow and I was also gonna do this other thing. You will be happy, trust me. One of the best things to do when youre confused about your relationship is to pull back and try to see yourself and your boyfriend more objectively. it took me years before I finally moved on. I gave him the benefit of the doubt too many times. NO PHONE CALL. Its up and down. 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